movies for the ladies

DH has been gone for over 2 weeks now. He was supposed to be home yesterday. I'm not really surprised that he didn't get home on time. I have to admit that I am REALLY hoping he will be home for the 4th of July. We were apart on Valentines, St Patty's, and Memorial Day. Is it asking too much to be together for some simple celebration? Perhaps it is, but I'm asking anyway.

So what do you do to fill the time when your spouse is away? LB takes up a lot of my time and so does taking care of the house and yard, but there is still that quiet time at night that you would usually spend together. These past 2 weeks I've been spending my alone time working on this blog, reading a book, watching chick flicks, and tonight I was even desperate enough to clean the carpets.

It's true I hit up the red box and rent movies that I know DH would rather not watch with me. I find it ironic that I rent the most sappy and emotional movies that I ever watch, when I am alone. I think it just makes me more aware of my singleness, but I do it anyway. So here's what I've seen and what I think about them.

Dear John



I rented this movie because I like Amanda Seyfried. I didn't even know it was about a soldier until I started watching it. Then I realized that maybe it was hitting a little to close to home and I must admit that it had me crying. Isn't that what chick flicks are supposed to do to you? I would recommend it if you are in the mood for tug at your heart kinda movie.

The Young Victoria



I really loved this movie. It is about real love, not sex or lust. She is a strong independent woman who found a man to stand beside her. It left me wanting to know more about the life of Victoria. This movie was well worth the $1 I spent.

An Education



This movie was interesting. There were definitely some moments that made me uncomfortable. However, the message of the movie got me thinking and wondering about my own education. I like a movie that gets me thinking.

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Military Moment

Well I’m blond, so I’m allowed to have blond moments, but when my blond moments bring in the military I guess the only thing to call them is military moments. When I was engaged to my mil man I was asked by my boss at work what branch of the military he was in. I replied, “He’s in the military.” Then he asked again, “What branch?” My response, “The military.” Well, Marine and military both start with a m don’t they? I cringe to think about it now, he probably wanted to fire me right on the spot fearing my stupidity would spread to my day to day work.

I've learned a few things since then, like the separate branches of the military.

What's your most embarrassing military moment, I will feel better if you have one to share too.

Fun Friday

Every Friday I try to do something fun that is out of the routine. It's nice to make it feel like the weekend. This is especially important when DH is gone (like today), because my Saturday really isn't much different from the rest of the week, unless I make it that way. For fun Friday today, we are having my friend's 2 little boys over. LB can play with them, while their mom and dad get to go on a date (now that sounds like fun to me). If we aren't partying it up, then someone else should be, right. I thought I'd include this photo of LB. It might be fun for YOU to see.

One 5 minute shower turned into 10 minutes of cleaning up LB's mess. I'm still not sure that getting clean was worth it. Any tips for taking care of yourself and the little ones when there is no backup in town? I am all ears!

The Moving Curse

Does this sight seem familiar? This is right across the street from my house. No I don't live on base where people move regularly. I live in a real "local" inhabited neighborhood. DH has told me I have a curse. I think he's right. Every time I become really great friends with someone it seems like they move. Now this is to be expected in the military however we aren't talking years or even a year until they move. It seems like they move within a few months of our friendship growing close.

This friend is extra special because...she is local. That's right. She grew up in the area. She can tell me the best doctors, AC repairman, body shop, restaurant, ect. She is a wealth of knowledge. Oh I will miss her. To top it off, she has a little boy who loves to play with LB. The good news is that at least we were neighbors for a little while and hopefully friends for along time. I hate the moving curse almost as much as I hate moving.

The First is Always the Hardest

I think that tonight this statement applies to 2 situations. This first post is hard, because I want to write like you already know who I am (maybe you do) and that requires me making a lot of assumptions. So instead of trying to write some wonderful introduction I'm just going to write a post like I've been blogging for ages (I probably have been in my head anyway). So here we go.

The First Night is Always the Hardest.

Dear Husband (DH) leaves lots. He's a flier, which means his schedule is NEVER predictable or consistent or even remotely logical (at least not to me). When a mission comes up, he gets assigned. Sometimes the missions go, sometimes they don't, and often the times or dates change. Regardless of that, there is one thing I can always count on, the lonely feeling the first night. After my little boy (LB) is put to bed the house is just empty. I hate it. The tooth brush holder looks empty with 1 brush. The bed looks empty with no one in it. My heart feels empty.

By the next morning single mom starts to take over as we adjust to life with DH on the road. I realize that what ever is going to get done is going to have to be done by me. It's nice to have a sense of purpose and keep moving on, even if you feel a little empty. The first night is always the hardest- at least for me.

Do you do something to help you or your kids transition into life without your spouse? What helps you make it through the lonely times?